Assertiveness and self-esteem. Which one comes first? Does assertive behaviour produce a healthy self-esteem, or are people with healthy self-esteem assertive?
Both are true - so you don't have to wait till you have healthy self-esteem to begin being assertive.
I remember coming home one day from my first job, very upset.
I worked in a finance team and my work was part of a system. If the person ahead of me in the process didn’t do her work on time, I couldn’t complete mine on time.
I found that frustrating and stressful. I ended up trying to do both our jobs so I wouldn’t look bad.