Are you annoyed by the title of this blog? By the implication that such fear is a choice? Hold your judgement for a moment.
Who am I? The question is deeply built into us. It doesn't take many years to start sculpting ourselves with answers. And whatever comes after I am... can become a powerful force in our lives. For example: some trainees turn up to my presentation skills workshops with these beliefs: "I am... someone who hates the spotlight." "I am... someone who doesn't like people looking at me." "I am... not a public speaker." So they're severely hampered making speeches, giving presentations, running meetings - even speaking up at someone else's meeting.
Don't just think of public speaking. Many other aspects of our lives can be crippled by such beliefs.
I mean really seen - as in seen through. Actually, you have little choice, you're going to be seen through anyway. An audience can't read your thoughts, but they effortlessly read your inner feeling state, your motivations, your attitudes, the way you see yourself and your life. How? By what you do with your body and voice.
The trick - the most impressive trick - is to get comfortable about being seen through. Yes, that means choosing to be comfortable about who you are.